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Book Title: The Psychology of Love|
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The size of the: 510 KB
v The author of the book: Robert J. Sternberg
Edition: Yale University Press
Date of issue: September 10th 1989
ISBN 13: 9780300045895
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Read full description of the books The Psychology of Love:“I have studied love because it is my life’s most difficult problem. Although I have made progress, the “impossible dream” of a truly fulfilling mutual love remains a goal I have yet to achieve. Possibly you are not satisfied with your achievement in the pursuit of love. Erich Fromm warned that “there is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations and yet which fails so regularly as love.”
…When your efforts to find a satisfying job are frustrated, you don’t leave the solution to luck – you study the problem and review all possible options. Why not do the same for love? If you are not prepared to “settle” and you can’t count on luck to lead you to someone close to your ideal, then you need to study love-styles.” – John Alan Lee on why he studied love.
“Just as different religions are constantly competing for supporters, so different love-styles are constantly seeking your agreement. You have only to turn on your radio for 15 minutes to hear several love songs in a row. The first tells you love is not merely the most important thing in your life – “love is ALL there is.” The next tells you not to be so stupid – love is just headaches and a way to catch pneumonia. The next tells you to enjoy love, but don’t take it seriously and don’t become dependent on it. The next tells you love is simply a lifelong friendship, whose closing chapter is two old folks playing checkers in the sun.” - The Psychology of Love.
“Love is an Austro-Hungarian Empire [basically a hodge-podge] uniting all sorts of feelings, behaviors, and attitudes, sometimes having little in common, under the rubric of “love.” Love can come from a surplus of energetic positive feelings or from feelings of inadequacy and gratitude to the one who lessens these feelings. Love can be felt for another who services the individual, or it can be benevolent love for another without personal advantage, or it can be a mixture of the two. Love can manifest itself as a feeling, as behavior, as a judgment (decision). A definition of love that attempts to unify these diverse phenomena results in a simplistic tautological definition that love is what one decides it is.” - The Psychology of Love.
“Unfortunately, some individuals believe, like Archie Bunker, that ignorance is bliss. Senator Proxmire in 1975 opposed the use of National Science Foundation funding to study love, stating: I believe that 200 million other Americans want to leave some things in life a mystery, and right at the top of things we don’t want to know is why a man falls in love with a woman and vice versa. …So National Science Foundation – get out of the love racket. Leave that to Elizabeth Browning and Irving Berlin. Here, if anywhere, Alexander Pope was right when he observed, “If ignorance is bliss, ‘tis folly to be wise.” - The Psychology of Love.
Read information about the authorRobert J. Sternberg's spectacular research career in psychology had a rather inauspicious beginning. In elementary school he performed poorly on IQ tests, and his teachers' actions conveyed their low expectations for his future progress. Everything changed when his fourth grade teacher, Mrs. Alexa, saw that he had potential and challenged him to do better. With her encouragement, he became a high-achieving student, eventually graduating summa cum laude and Phi Beta Kappa from Yale University. In a gesture of gratitude, Dr. Sternberg dedicated his book, Successful Intelligence to Mrs. Alexa.
Dr. Sternberg's personal experiences with intelligence testing in elementary school lead him to create his own intelligence test for a 7 th grade science project. He happened to find the Stanford-Binet scales in the local library, and with unintentional impertinence, began administering the test to his classmates; his own test, the Sternberg Test of Mental Abilities (STOMA) appeared shortly thereafter. In subsequent years he distinguished himself in many domains of psychology, having published influential theories relating to intelligence, creativity, wisdom, thinking styles, love and hate.
Dr. Sternberg's Triarchic Theory of (Successful) Intelligence contends that intelligent behavior arises from a balance between analytical, creative and practical abilities, and that these abilities function collectively to allow individuals to achieve success within particular sociocultural contexts. Analytical abilities enable the individual to evaluate, analyze, compare and contrast information. Creative abilities generate invention, discovery, and other creative endeavors. Practical abilities tie everything together by allowing individuals to apply what they have learned in the appropriate setting. To be successful in life the individual must make the best use of his or her analytical, creative and practical strengths, while at the same time compensating for weaknesses in any of these areas. This might involve working on improving weak areas to become better adapted to the needs of a particular environment, or choosing to work in an environment that values the individual's particular strengths. For example, a person with highly developed analytical and practical abilities, but with less well-developed creative abilities, might choose to work in a field that values technical expertise but does not require a great deal of imaginative thinking. Conversely, if the chosen career does value creative abilities, the individual can use his or her analytical strengths to come up with strategies for improving this weakness. Thus, a central feature of the triarchic theory of successful intelligence is adaptability-both within the individual and within the individual's sociocultural context.
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